The new Circle of Moms video series by POPSUGAR features four everyday moms, with children of all ages, who talk and relating about real life discussion, topics and issues that moms face on a daily basis. I’ve found parenting forums, parenting blogs and various websites to be extremely beneficial throughout my 10 plus years of motherhood. I’ve learned a lot – mostly that I’m not alone in my thoughts and feelings – I’ve connecting with different resources to make more informed decisions and made lifelong friends.
This particular episode hit home in more ways than one. Check out the latest video from Circle of Moms by POPSUGAR, presented by the all new 2014 Kia Sorento, and see if it relates to you, too!
Most moms I know can totally relate to this topic – even if they prefer to not openly talk about it with friends. I’ve been through this three times and, to be honest, it’s definitely on my mind as the birth of our fourth baby nears. The biggest mistake I made when it came to finding romance with my husband was comparing each situation after each baby. Good friends will tell you not to compare your newborns and your experiences after each child, but we all know that can be easier said than done. You’ll never be in the same place (with the same amount of children) after each child so comparing scenarios is not a good idea.
I can also completely relate to Tia and Lizzie on this one. My everyday routine with the baby – and the house and the other children - became so daunting and scheduled, I felt as if there was no time for anything else… Like it was hard to break out of the routine for fear of everything falling apart. Speaking of falling apart, that was me emotionally. It’s no secret that I’ve battled with postpartum anxiety (and likely mild cases of postpartum depression) after my last two kids. Mix those uncontrollable emotions with hormones and not feeling good in your own skin and that definitely doesn’t equal mommy feeling desirable.
These Circle of Moms tips for getting your groove back and rekindling that romance with your partner are great! Even if they all don’t apply to you, they’re definitely worth taking a look at – even if to spark an idea on your own.
- Make it a “quickie” – no need for explanation, right?
- Make time for a night out – this is a great one and one that is fairly easy to do if planned in advance.
- Do something (for yourself) that you used to do pre-kids – this helps you to feel good about yourself, get time to yourself and in turn, will make you happier and feel better in your own skin.
- Try “sexting” – can you say modern 4play?!
- Have a kid-free weekend – not exactly do-able for everyone, but try bringing a sitter with you to enjoy evenings and the extra hands!
- Prompt or ask your husband to pick out something sexy for you – gets him involved, you know he’ll like it and it makes you feel good!
TIPS WITH TIA: CHERISH THE MOMENTS
Bingo! Tia hit the nail on the head with this one. It’s so important to stop and smell the roses and really take the time to be present with your children. It’s also so easy to get wrapped up in work, schedules, household chores and the demands of multiple children – I know this all too well. I also know that it doesn’t have to be much.
Here are some simple ways I take the time to focus on my kids each and every day:
- Turn off the car radio and talk – it could be about the day, telling knock knock jokes (as the moms talk about while riding in the 2014 Kia Sorento in the video) or making up a mad libs story to get some sillies out.
- Turn on the music – turn on the tunes in the car or in the house and sing together.
- Take one kid to lunch or for ice cream – a walk is also a great way to get exercise, fresh air and it’s free!
- Play games with your kids – a board game, a video game, an outside game – anything! Do something with your child that he/she enjoys to experience it together.
- Forget the chores or include your child – put off the laundry (a little longer) and read, draw or cook with your kids. My kids also enjoy being included in some of the chores, like folding laundry, as it gives them a sense of responsibility and pride.
MOTHER-IN-LAWS: A BETTER RELATIONSHIP IN ONE LUNCH
No matter if you have an amazing relationship with your MIL or one that could use some work, I found these tips and ideas to be very useful and interesting. I have an extremely close relationship with my mom, so naturally I think of her first when it comes to inviting someone to lunch or including a family member in a special activity. It doesn’t help that my Mother-In-Law lives much further away, but there are still some thing I can pull from this topic to help enhance our relationship – even long distance.
- Invite your Mother-In-Law to spend some time with you – if she’s not local, this can be done during a visit or even a phone call just to check in, say hi and update her on the kids.
- List some qualities that your husband may have received from her – this provides a way to better connect the two of you and really shows you thank her for raising an amazing man.
- Bring a gift – I always give my MIL gifts from the kids – like a photo book, framed picture or art project – because she is out of town and doesn’t get to see my kids as often.
How do you strengthen your relationship with your Mother-In-Law? (I’m always looking for new ideas with this topic)!
Disclosure: This post was sponsored by Kia through their partnership with Circle of Moms. While I was compensated to review the Kia Motors video and write a review, all opinions are my own.